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His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage |  | Author: Willard F. Harley Jr.
Publisher: Revell
Category: Book
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Rating:  243 reviews
Sales Rank: 3269
Format: Deluxe Edition
Media: Hardcover
Edition: 15 Anv
Pages: 224
Number Of Items: 1
Shipping Weight (lbs): 1.1
Dimensions (in): 9.1 x 6 x 0.9
ISBN: 0800717880
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.810973
EAN: 9780800717889
ASIN: 0800717880
Publication Date: April 1, 2001
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For over 15 years, this insightful bestseller has helped couples meet each other's most important needs and reignite their romance.
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 Fantastic Book to Start the Releationship Healing Process November 26, 2009
R. B. James (Monterey, CA)
"His Needs Her Needs" by Dr. Will Harley is a methodology which I have found practical for many relationship issues which present themselves in my Counseling practice. There are many powerful tools presented in this book, many of which may be useful at any stage of your intimate relationships; from brand new, solid, challenging, on the rocks, or starting over. While it is not the "Bible" of Good Relationships, it is extremely helpful in establishing a field of fair play when couples are unable to accomplish it on their own.
It is important to know that above all, people should truly forgive one another, and realize that everyone is always doing their best according to what they know, need, and feel. Also know that all our negative emotions are caused by the meaning and expectation that we give people, places, things, and situations. The meaning that we give something can hinder our ability to simply accept "what is". We can always work toward the best, but must find peace in the present, and learn to release the past.
The "Love Bank" concept shown in this book is good if used only for working toward positive goals in a loving relationship. In truth, we should never `keep score" on others or ourselves. On this path lie disappointment and unhappiness, and a notion of "Giving to Get". We must learn to forgive ourselves and others. The Love Bank can be used to see yourself through your partner's eyes, and change your behavior accordingly. Use it as a place to begin your path to the healing of your relationship.
We cannot change the behavior of others - that is always their choice. We can certainly have preferences, and we are obliged to share them with our partners. That's the purpose of the Emotional Needs Questionnaire - to find out what YOUR true needs are. Lovingly share the results with each other.
We should also know that in accepting ourselves and others, we must accept whatever happens on our paths. We are all each other's Students and Teachers. Be ever vigilant of what you are teaching and learning.
Relationships never end, but they always grow and change. Marriages and intimate relationships can end, and become miraculous friendships, and the reverse is also true. Hold no expectations in your heart, work to grow compassion and love there, and these same things will come to you.
Remember, our goal is to remove our own obstacles to the awareness of Love's presence, which is always there.
Bud James, CCHt, MNLP
They should REQUIRE people to read this before marriage November 15, 2009
N. McCartney
This book is incredible. My pastor recommended it to my husband and I when we first got married amongst other books. This one was the only one that we find ourselves incorporating into our everyday life. I try to read it every year, and each time I do, I realize I've fallen off course with where I want my marriage to be, and this book rejuvenates me and my husband both. It brings us back to basics and helps us to stop and question how committed we are to making each other happy. Our marriage isn't and never will be perfect, but reading this book makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, a feeling like nothing else. It really makes it seem so easy to make your marriage work, and gets you excited about what the future holds when you try to meet your spouses most important needs. Another surprising thing, was how this book seemed to make it entirely clear to me why my parents marriage failed. Everything I watched happen over 20 years with them suddenly made sense, and it made me see how preventable it could've been. I later had my Mom herself read the book to see if it would give her some kind of answers to what happened to her marriage, and she read the entire book in one night, and said if she ever thought about getting married again she would ask her future husband to read this book with her once a year just like me and my husband do. She seemed to get some kind of comfort in this book, as if it answered all her burning questions from her failed marriage. Any book that could do that... should be considered THE handbook for marriage.
Psychotherapist October 4, 2009
Centerpeace (Texas)
This book has been a part of my practice for many years. I have never had anyone read it that didn't find wisdom and applicable information to assist in improving their relationship.
His Needs Her Needs October 4, 2009
Penny G. Lamonte (Chickasaw, AL USA)
I would highly recommend this book to people who have a good marriage but want a great one. Of course , it is also excellent for those who are struggling. This book has helped my husband and I identify what we need from each other to feel loved. My hope for a great marriage has been restored. Excellent book!
A little extreme September 23, 2009
Stephen M. Bartlett Jr.
My fiance and I read this book as apart of our pre-marital counseling, and I thought it was a little extreme. It seemed like if there was some sort of problem in your marriage, an affair was justifiable and inevitable. I wish there had been more material on how to work things out or what to do if there is a problem in your relationship. There are some very helpful points though, and the book brought up a lot of questions I would have never thought about. I would recommend this book for couples married or engaged. It has improved our relationship.
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